Being beautiful is too much damn pressure!!

Being beautiful is too much damn pressure!!

Is it me, or is being beautiful a full time job? (side-eye)

Don't get me wrong, I have always been beautiful as is. As is, meaning no make up, no brow wax, no relaxer.

As is= As I am naturally. 

But with that said, we all know that I look much much better without my unibrow. Yes, I naturally have a light unibrow lol. 

With me feeling these conflicting ways I thought I should share a resent pressure of mine and how I worked through it.....

So I got this new man right, and we've been dating for a couple of months now. With being around him all the time, I feel pressured to be beautiful and sexy all the time. I want to look my best for him. Not that he's asking me to do this but I WANT TO.

(No seriously he's not, he told me "just take your wig off" on Saturday, when my head was itching LMAO. So I did just that. I took it off and walked around in my braid down. He thinks I'm stunning regardless.)

So with this being the way I feel, I figure, why not?! Shit you can do it. What's wrong with being beautiful, cute and sexy all the time? Plus, we were under Quarantine for months without being able to get out and have services done. So why not appreciate this time?!

So I've been keeping up. Getting my nails and toes done exactly every 2 weeks, getting my brows waxed more regularly, getting my bikini wax every 4 weeks, keeping my hair done, shaving my legs every 2 days, wearing lingerie and cute outfits more regularly vs. leggings and t-shirts and the list goes on. 

When I tell you that I am TIRED, that's exactly what I mean... Every time I turn around I have an appointment for something. With everything else that I have going on, I'm tired of trying to be cute. And I really don't have time for it. (side-eye)

Right now as I type this, I need my nails done, need to shave my legs, need a brow and bikini wax, plus I'm tired of wearing my wig.

Don't get me wrong, I'm going to do it all, I like having an upkeep,


I can't keep being so anal about it. it's ok if I miss a week or wear my 3 day old wash a go.

It's exhausting being beautiful and sexy ALL the time.


Going back to the regular......

Now, I'm sitting here thinking.... With him telling me to just take my wig off, it gave me the "ok" to let go a little bit. Which is funny because I haven't told him that I was making myself feel this way. Again, this is a expectation that I set for myself. But, with those simple words, he let me know that he does not care as much as I do.

If you asked me, I would tell you that I wasn't doing it for him and that I was doing it for myself. But, then that wouldn't make much sense now would it? LMAO Funny how the brain works huh?!

I wrote this blog to say:

It's important for men to let the women around them know, that they like them just the way they are. Because although us as women, like to act as if the opinions of men have no impact on the way we present ourselves, IT DOES. It is also ok to spruce yourself up to look good for your significant other. But don't get carried away and set crazy expectations for yourself. BALANCE IS KEY :) 


Have you ever found yourself feeling this way? Please share below.

Thanks for reading, Jamecia 

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Yes I know exactly how you feel but I woke up one day and said girl who you looking good for you getting old nobody cares but your husband and he definitely loves you just the way you are.

Jetaun Smith

I completely agree with this! I myself have set mandatory standards when it comes to the maintenance of keeping myself up, taking in consideration being pleasing to the eye for my man. I don’t mind being ugly around the house now lbs, he encourages it and I embrace it. But before on a daily I was doing the most. With that being said I can’t deny the feeling of satisfaction when it comes to slaying but like you said you gotta fine BALANCE. It’s also important for men to reassure their woman that it’s okay to take a day off from being beautified and glamorous. I myself have learned that I don’t have to hide the dark marks on my face at home because make up or no make up he accepts me flaws and all. I’ve at the age of 28 just now found the perfect balance.


I agree with this 1000% I actually enjoyed not having to do some of these things during quarantine lol. Like you said every time you look up there’s an appointment for something. I cut my hair and hails a year ago and embraced my bald head and no nails and everyone knows I love both especially my nails. The guys I was dating loved it so much. Anyway I think that we should be able to come as we are and the person who you are dating or in a relationship with should accept you if you’re comfortable. Don’t get it twisted I’m not saying come out looking crazy but always be comfortable with your natural beauty…


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